Intimacy Secrets Every Woman Should Know!

Of all the changes our bodies go through as we age, one of the toughest things for women to bring up with their doctors is their sex life. But the fact is, things do change—and if you feel that your sex life has lost its sizzle, or you’re just not in the mood as often as you used to be, you’re not alone.

Many women (and men) experience real physical changes as they age—changes which can affect everything from desire to performance. But while therapies like Viagra have brought this truth to light for men, many women are left silently wondering what’s wrong with them.

If you’ve received my emails for a while now, you know that I don’t recommend a prescription drug as a quick fix. But I do have some fantastic tricks up my sleeve for reigniting the spark in your sex life. First, I want to explain why your sexual desire can change as you age.

The inside scoop on sex drive

A healthy sex life is an important part of your health. It stimulates a natural “high” in your body from the release of endorphins in the brain. It burns calories, feels good, and keeps muscles and tissues in shape. Studies have confirmed that an active sex life is associated with longer life, better physical health, and a fuller sense of personal worth, potential, and well-being.

But as you enter menopause, you don’t produce the small amounts of androgens or male hormones (mostly testosterone) that stimulate sex drive. These hormones are normally produced by our bodies to increase our desire for sex.

As our bodies shift gears during the transition to menopause, our desire for sex decreases. And while testosterone still cycles in our bloodstream the amount is often insufficient to spark desire.

So, what can you do to get your desire back?

Testosterone therapy is the most effective treatment to restore libido but it requires a doctor's prescription. I've found very low doses of testosterone in pill or topical cream form to be quite helpful for my female patients. Talk to your physician about this approach.

Another way to help improve your libido is with an ancient adaptogen from the Andes, called MACA. It has a long history of traditional use to help enhance sexual desire and give you increased energy and stamina, so that you can experience the amazing passion and pleasure you once knew.

Plus, another powerful way to re-spark desire is with scent. Researchers have shown that certain scents have particularly strong aphrodisiac qualities, especially cinnamon, cloves, ginger, and nutmeg. Place potpourri or essential oils that include these scents in your bedroom, or anywhere else you want to spark desire.

If sexual response is an issue,
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During menopause, estrogen levels decline and the vaginal lining thins and loses some of its lubrication-producing mucus glands. If you’re experiencing dryness or a loss of sensation during intimacy, I suggest trying a topical response cream, such as the one made by emerita to help promote lubrication and intensify response, which then increases blood flow.

The emerita response cream contains a combination of three natural amino acids—L-Arginine, L-Phenylalanine, and L-Tyrosine to help stimulate your sexual response and desire.

Another way to overcome a lack of physical response is to incorporate a personal massager into your lovemaking. As I mentioned above, it’s more difficult for women to become physically aroused after menopause, so the added stimulation of a personal massager can help you feel in the mood. Many women also find that a good personal massager helps to heighten response.

Finally, when it comes to intimacy, sometimes it's a good idea to just relax. Give your partner a gentle massage with some fragrant oils, and ask for the same in return. Massage is perfect for reducing tension and stress and bringing about a deep sense of peace and relaxation.

In fact, some studies have found that massage can stimulate the production of chemicals such as serotonin, which are related to the body’s innate relaxation response. In a word, massage makes you feel good; touching is a wonderful way to be deeply intimate; and who knows what it will lead to.

To your health